My son and I came up with this little way of seeing things...
We all have a;
A Basic Brain
A Middle Brain and
An Elevated Brain.
The Basic Brain does what it wants when it wants... if it's hungry, it goes for chips and sweets. If someone annoys it, it lashes out.
The Middle Brain understands that it has choices. If it's hungry, it might decide to eat something nourishing instead of chocolate. If someone annoys it, it might decide to take a deep breathe or walk away.
The Elevated Brain always acts out of love.. It would always choose the food that would best serve it. If someone annoys it, it would ask itself.. Wow this person is a great teacher for me. Why am I being annoyed?